For example, one of my most recent sexploits was with a man who lives across the road from me. I knew him through a friend of a friend and as a result, we started having contact on a popular social networking site. This inevitably led to him coming round to my house to watch a dvd. Now, don't get me wrong, my intention was not to have sex with him because I did actually quite like him and I try not to have sex with a man on the first date if I like him. Funnily enough though, the outcome was that we did the dirty deed and it was nothing to write home about! I think the highlight was him asking me mid-cunnilingus 'Have you cum yet?' to which my reply was 'No, Gary, I haven't.' Oddly enough, things went down hill from there. There was no fire or passion but yet I still felt that there was a connection, purely because he did the one thing you don't do on a one night stand. He broke the cardinal rule of no-strings-sex. He held me. And fell asleep with me. A huge no-no. It is a biological fact that during orgasm and immediately after sex, both parties emitt hormones that start to form an emotional bond and when having no-strings, it is best to be as far away as possibe to avoid these errant chemicals!

'I'll text you when I get to work' and so began the awkward dance that people do when they want to say something but don't know how to say it. The excuse I eventually got as to why he wouldn't be coming back went something along the lines of 'I still love my ex, blah blah blah.' This would have been perfectly acceptable had it been the truth.

There was something I should have paid more attention to before this 'event' occurred. On this particular networking site, it is possible to display your relationship status. At the time, his profile said that it was complicated. I automatically assumed, somewhat naievely, that this was due to his previous relationship and him wanting some time out. How wrong I was. The weekend after we slept together, photos appeared on his profile of Gary looking very cosey with a lady that definately wasnt his ex (I know this because his ex is a red-head and this lady was a brunette) and the photos were taken the weekend before we slept together. And all of a sudden, his relationship status changes from 'its complicated' to 'in a relationship'. Oh dear. What I don't understand is why did he not just say 'Will you sleep with me?' Surely honesty is the best policy??? The silliest thing is, I would happily have slept with him anyway. To me, sex is a need to be fulfilled. I think I am actually quite male in my attitude to sex. I find women's bodies more attractive to look at, although I am straight, I will happily sleep with someone and not call them the next day, I purposely go out and 'hunt' for a man when the desire takes me.